A day for our angels

Our angels do not get many days that are all about them. Their special days will forever be just their birthday and their death day (if those dates are different) and should you choose, they can also have today the 15th of October - Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. A day to remember all the babies too beautiful for this world.

This is the reality we bereaved parents live - for our precious angels there will be no cheers of joy over their first tooth or first steps, no photographs of their first haircut or first day of school. There will be no awards at school assemblies, no graduation ceremonies, no first jobs and no wedding days. When we lost them, we lost their future. But that doesn't mean that we cannot take them along with us in ours.

So today, I will take a deep breath, I will light her candle, I will play her song and I will say her name. Nora.

So today, I will take a deep breath, I will light her candle, I will play her song and I will say her name. Nora.

I will take time to reflect on all the what ifs and could have beens. And I will no doubt add to the ocean of tears I have cried.

But I will smile too.

I will smile because I am so grateful to be her mummy. I will smile because bigger than the immense sadness that she is gone - is the pride I feel that she was ours.